I started reading The Bonds That Make Us Free by Terry Warner. I am only into the book about 60 pages but I can tell this is going to be a life changing experience. I have been taking notes like crazy as I read and wanted to share a few things tonight.
I feel like I used codependency to make me into the person I wasn't. I want to believe that I was confident and could be heard for who I was and who I wanted to be. Living with an addict made me unsure of myself and my decisions. I saw myself turning to behaviors that felt unnatural to me but necessary at the same time. I tried to control whatever or whoever would let me because my husband and I were so out of control.
I don't feel like that any more. We joked the other night that we couldn't even get into the drama after a dinner disaster. It feels so foreign to us now. How healthy is that??
I know I still have a long way to go, but I'm on the right path and still crazy in love with my husband! I can't wait to spend eternity with him:)
Love you babe:)
Another thing that jumped off the page at me was about feeling stuck. When we feel stuck we feel like others have more power over our situation and choices than we do. We believe that they have the ability to cause trauma and feelings in us that we can not do anything about. When this happens we develop strategies for relieving our unwanted feelings without retracing the path that got us there in the first place.
Finding the truth about the source of the problem points to the cure. The truth is the cure!!
